Forgiveness
Forgiveness. When I’ve contemplated doing it (not as often as I should), I’ve always thought of it as releasing my offender from my own wrath/punishment/revenge and instead trusting God’s (more just) dealings with him/her. I’m pretty sure teaching in the church has reinforced this idea—that the reason we forgive is because we aren’t responsible for our offender’s consequences. God, however, is. But I’ve noticed something: such a release isn’t really a release. For it creates an opportunity (which, sadly, I’m all too inclined to take) to relish the idea of my offender’s experiencing consequences for his/her behavior. And not just any consequences, but those coming from the powerful hand of God Himself. “Ha!” says my (dark) heart, as I “release” my offender from my own scrawny-by-comparison attempts at righting the wrong. But Frederica Mathews-Green offers a different definition of forgiveness. She ass...